Dealing with sensory impairments means I tend to overthink things, where things seem normal to everyone else. Wanting to know about things that will help settle my thoughts is never about control, or wanting to control other people’s decisions, it’s about wanting myself settled.
It’s about me being in control of my thoughts and feelings, particularly where other people’s decisions are affecting how I function. My mind settles when things feel normal, when I know other people’s decisions are measured, when the end result is as they anticipate.
Sadly, it’s easy to panic when decisions are made that don’t feel or look right. And if those who have made their decisions are already struggling, it’s even easier easy for my feelings to go into overdrive, as panic sets in.
When it comes to sensory issues, what I deal with is never easy, a curse in parts, but helpful in others, particularly because I get to work on my site.