It’s time to talk

When I was growing up, we weren’t encouraged to talk about how we felt. And although nothing was said, we learned very quickly that reaching out was a sign of weakness, not a sign of strength. We learned not to talk about how we felt.

As a child I wanted desperately to talk about things. I not only had physical weakness through a disability I knew nothing about, but my mental and emotional feelings were shot. I knew I was different. It’s time to talk about how we feel, for others to listen to us, and for us to listen to others.

Talking isn’t a sign of weakness, talking about how you feel is a gutsy thing to do. It’s not only telling the other person you have something to say, but it’s clearing things up for you; it’s finding resolution.

The word dis-ease means ill at ease and that’s when illness sets in. When we talk about things, we keep illness at bay. There is a fine dividing line between staying well and becoming ill. The more we keep things inside, the more we invite illness in.

Although I learned early on that I couldn’t talk about how I felt, that yearning of wanting to talk never left. There is no doubt for me that finding resolution if we can’t achieve it by ourselves, comes when we talk openly about things.


7 Nov, 2021

2 thoughts on “It’s time to talk

  1. I completely agree with you. The big question is why don’t we talk about out emotions and our feelings.

    We’re all human and we all have feelings and talking about them isn’t a sign of weakness. It is a part of taking charge of your wellbeing and doing what you can to stay healthy.

    Talking with someone can be a way to cope with a problem you’ve been carrying and keeping to yourself. Just being listened to can help you feel supported and less alone. And it works both ways.

    If you open up, it might encourage others to do the same.

    1. Thanks. I agree, agree, agree. It takes energy to think about things, it also takes energy to go through with any form of mental and emotional change.

      Perhaps attitudes still need to change. The old-fashioned thinking still seems to be around from when I was growing up.

      It’s probably one of the reasons why men didn’t or still don’t always. But I agree with you, talking is very much a sign of strength.

      Admitting you need help in a world where it’s not encouraged is strength. Attitudes and the world needs to change.

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