Jealousy

Jealousy comes in all shapes and sizes, but to overcome jealousy we must first be aware and understand it. When we have clarity on what and why we feel what we feel, we’re less likely to react to certain scenarios through jealousy.

Jealousy is an emotional reaction to scenarios that we have in our mind, which isn’t necessarily true. Unconsciously, we create thoughts that play out in our conscious minds to the point of those thoughts becoming a reality. Unfortunately, if jealousy isn’t nipped in the bud quickly, it can escalate and resurface in other areas of our lives.

Jealousy will always have a bearing on our emotional health, particularly if it continues to go ignored. The more we understand, the less likely we are to become jealous. As we begin to see and re-evaluate each individual scenario, we can change our perceptions on our jealous thoughts.

Jealousy isn’t something we’re born with and often stems from childhood, although we’re not always consciously aware that’s where it comes from. I have seen first hand how jealousy has turned seemingly nice people into not so nice people. Jealousy splits friends, even families. I have seen that too.


21 Apr, 2014

6 thoughts on “Jealousy

  1. I’m not one to be jealous any more, where as as a teen I would get jealous occasionally of other people I knew that had more than I did, or who didn’t suffer from a disease that enabled them from doing things normal kids did.

    I’m over that thank goodness. I have more than enough and I don’t go without and it seems like even though I have some disease processes going on, my life is better from them than a healthy person.

    I was jealous at one point of a family member due to some things that happened when my father passed, but I’m over that too. I agree with you, jealousy can tear a family apart and friendships also.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I think how you felt as a teen is very normal, which parents may or not be aware of. A lot goes on in a child’s life. We’re aware of our life and aware of other people’s lives and spend our lives continuing to draw comparisons.

      I saw that too, but didn’t hone in on it, because I had too much going on else where to pay attention. I was lucky. My thinking process was also very similar to how it is now so I never feel the need to draw comparisons or be jealous, but know so many family members who have and still do.

      I’m pleased you see your life differently now and that you’ve moved on from your feelings of jealousy. Good for you.

  2. I dislike feeling jealousy. I had felt it toward non-disabled persons. I try to focus on what I am able to do and it’s okay doing things differently.

    1. Hi Maria and welcome to the site. It’s very easy to feel jealousy towards people who don’t have what we have to deal with.

      I think you’re absolutely right though, to focus on the things you are able to do and yes it’s okay to do things differently. It’s to be embraced.

  3. I think many of us feel jealousy for many reasons. It could be because we can’t afford things others have, or we wish our lives were different in some way to the way it is.

    I think that recognising it is important so it doesn’t become a destructive emotion and it is controlled; that way we can concentrate on the positive as Maria says and that is a much more fruitful endeavour.

    1. I think you’re right. Jealousy must always be controlled. As you say, jealousy can be destructive if not controlled and I agree with you.

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