Growing up, I was continually being judged because I was angry, judged because I failed to make headway in school and that was put down to me, judged because of my difficulties around my disability that others didn’t care to understand. Those others reacting in a way that made me more reactive ensured the pattern continued.
Other people’s reactions to us are a copy of their reactions with themselves. When we judge a book by its cover, we are influenced by our own biases more than we are by evidence, but we also have expectations and those expectations are triggered by how others look, and how they present themselves.
We draw conclusions about people through our own filters and then write them off. Even over time people and their personalities will alter these conclusions, but our opinions may still remain highly biased. We err on the side of overestimation, either thinking people are worse or better than they actually are.
In today’s society it is even more important we are open, more than we have ever been that we act fairly and not judge.