We get a bad press. We’re judged, not because we’ve said or done something to the other person, but by association and usually with family.
For the person being judged, it’s not funny because of the hard time and the bad press they get, but it’s also not something they can go back in and change. It would be up to the person who is doing the judging to change and to stop judging.
If we’re guilty of being judged, then we deserve what we get back, but judging someone because of prejudices that are reflected in our unconscious behaviour towards the person we’re judging isn’t right. Unconsciously we’re making decisions about that person’s family background, and moral standings.
It is difficult being judged, particularly, if we’re the ones who are constantly in the firing line, because we’re continually being associated with someone they’re having a hard time with, which isn’t us.