We get a bad press. We’re judged, not because we’ve said or done something to the other person, but by association with family.
For the person being judged, it’s not funny because of the hard time and the bad press they get, but it’s also not something they can go back in and change. It would be up to the person who is doing the judging to change and to stop judging.
If we’re guilty of being judged, then we perhaps deserve what we get back, but it wouldn’t be right to be constantly judged by association of another family. But judging someone it often done on an unconscious level as a result of our own prejudices and that is reflected in our unconscious behavior towards the person we’re judging.
In those circumstances, we’ve unconsciously already made decisions about that person’s background, family and moral standings. It’s difficult to be judged, through whatever circumstances, but particularly if you’re the one who is constantly in the firing line, because you’re associated with someone they’re having a hard time with, which isn’t you.