I know that had I have known what was wrong with me all those years ago, I wouldn’t have been judged on my lack of ability and what others thought I should be able to do.
Getting through school was difficult enough, but school wasn’t the only place where me being judged took place. When someone knows what you deal with, diagnosis aside, they work within the context of what they know, with those facts in front of them.
Although, it would have been easier with a diagnosis, a diagnosis doesn’t always give the full facts of the symptoms, as my blog has shown. I’ve had to work through the process myself, even on the initial diagnosis.
If my parents had have communicated my diagnosis to the school and the school acted accordingly, a different view and understanding might have been taken by those responsible for my welfare and a different course of action might have been introduced for my parents to follow. Now I will never know.
It’s hard enough dealing with a disability, but it’s even harder when others judge on our abilities, thinking we should be able to do certain things, but without understanding why progress isn’t being made.
Being told I would catch up, didn’t help me catch up. Although I was considered slow to learn by some of the teaching staff, there was little understanding as to why and neither the school or my parents, thought to ask or look into why.
Although teachers could see I struggled, there was little communication between school and home, so I never got the help. Today that wouldn’t happen of course, but being on the receiving end of not having a diagnosis and being judged, not only made for difficult times, but for a difficult life too.
Perhaps the lesson for us here, is that regardless of a diagnosis, others must see, understand and help us deal with presenting difficulties. It’s not right for anyone to stand in judgment, just because of our inability to function normally in our lives like everyone else.
Instead they should choose to work out why and if they can’t they should ask and make sure it’s followed through.