Knowing when to let go

There are some things in our life we can change, some things we will never be able to change, but we will still need to understand when it’s time to let go.

We attach our hopes and happiness to things, circumstances and people without wanting to let go. We unconsciously ignore the signs and continue to attach our feelings and will become defined by those very things. All the things we do and have in our lives become familiar to us, they become the foundations, but perhaps it’s time to think about things in other ways.

Looking back on my own life, had I have understood the signs earlier, I would have changed my life a lot sooner. When we stop trying too hard, when we stop trying to grasp at the things we should be letting go of, we will have the freedom to let go of the things and the people that hold us back.

We must change the way we perceive and experience the very things we hold on to. I remember talking to my Counsellor before The CP Diary ever existed about my own issues, asking her questions that I hoped would bring me the most peace, but what I didn’t realise was that those questions didn’t help because the very answers I was looking to her for, had to come from me.

Something had to click. I had to understand, acknowledge and see the signs for myself. No one could give me the understanding. I had to work that understanding out for myself. I had to know when and what to hold on to and when it was time to let go.

No one can make us see or understand. The understanding must come from within us.

14 May, 2014

4 thoughts on “Knowing when to let go

  1. I totally agree with you. We do have to learn to let go by ourselves. We can’t depend on someone else to find the answers for us.

    I held a grudge against a family member for years and have just let go of it. The other person never apologised and I don’t think she ever will, so I just let it go. I let things go a lot because I don’t have time to dwell on things. I have a life and that just about takes all my time taking care of it.

    If we dwell on things we don’t have the time to spend on the important things. Hanging on to things can also cause depression and other mental problems.

    We aren’t fully happy when we hang onto these things and that’s just what they are, things.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I agree, as long as we have an understanding of why, then letting go without an apology is fine. Given my own background I’ve had to work things differently. There were so many issues being presented that needed sorting out.

      Growing up in a dysfunctional family, it may take us a while to see things for ourselves. The key is understanding first, then knowing when to let go.

  2. “Let go or be dragged!” I’m pretty sure this is something I heard in AA, which made a lot of sense to me. I’ve spent my whole life hanging on to so many things it has kept me stuck in one place in my mind.

    Knowing when to let go has been one of the hardest lessons to learn. My fear is ending up like one of the people I’ve seen in nursing homes who never let go of anything and truly hate being alive!

    It just seems like such a terrible way to go out. I really don’t want to end up dying alone because no one wants to come to see me!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes it’s never easy knowing when to let go, but it’s an invaluable lesson for us to learn. I’m not sure I’d be up to doing what I do if I hadn’t have learned to let go.

      You understand the need for you to let go, now you just have to let yourself go!

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