Although I wanted to know what I was dealing with, I know we have no choice but to keep the lid on our feelings. Letting go of anger doesn’t take away the initial wrongdoing and why we initially feel anger towards someone.
Whatever anyone does, they will always be responsible and accountable, but for us it goes some way to change the way we perceive what they’ve done.
Through anger we hold on to resentment and through our resentment of the situation, we will always continue to perpetuate how we feel subconsciously. But I believe that if we are able to rise above what we feel to understand the bigger picture, we will let go of resentment towards those others.
The reason why it’s so hard to let go is that without others accepting blame, we carry their guilt and blame ourselves for not being able to change the outcome.
I see my father not from the perspective of a child with emotional needs that were ignored and never met, but as the adult capable of understanding that people aren’t always what we expect or need them to be.