Living in denial

Unfortunately, for some of us, living in denial becomes a permanent fixture. For a short while, not thinking about anything can bring us peace, but there will always come a time where we need to accept and deal with things, that’s life. But what happens when someone permanently lives in denial?

People living in denial will always have tendencies to isolate and cut themselves off emotionally from family and friends, from issues that continue to need their attention. Anything or everything that needs to be addressed will be left on the back burner.

But being in denial doesn’t mean those issues will go away. All issues will remain whilst they’re not being dealt with. Issues don’t stop because we choose not to address them. Being in denial is fine when it doesn’t affect anyone else, but that’s not always the case. Some issues that aren’t being addressed, may also have an affect on family too.

Living in denial will always show others a different side to how we cope and although others may empathise to a certain extent, they may also become frustrated that nothing is being addressed or dealt with, particularly if those issues begin to concern them too.

In the longer term, extended family may choose to walk away. They will always have that option, but for immediate family that’s not so easy to do.


16 Mar, 2012

2 thoughts on “Living in denial

  1. Denial is a place for some to hide from the ugly things in our life like illness.

    I have seen it in my career as a nurse. People acting like there is nothing wrong until one day it catches up with them and there are the family members that are in denial.

    They too can act like there is nothing wrong with their loved ones and then that just feeds the persons denial, that things are alright when they’re not.

    1. I agree that some people’s initial reaction is to hide from the truth and use denial as a means to cope. I haven’t seen myself, or know of anyone hide behind their illness. From my experience around illness with my mother and now my father they were both keen to know what was wrong with them.

      I think we all deal with illness and situations differently. It’s very hard for anyone to accept that their loved ones are going to die. Initially we’re in shock, then denial or some may experience both.

      Others may permanently live in that state. It’s part of who they are.

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