Living with no regrets

For many years I lived with guilt that left me angry and stressed. Each day felt like a new battle.

Everywhere I turned, my disappointments continued to stare back at me. I couldn’t get rid of the guilt that was clouding my judgment on new situations, but slowly through my inner beliefs and giving myself time, I began to see that the guilt had nothing to do with me.

I began to understand that a lifetime of my regrets had everything to do with my lack of control over my parents’ decisions. I had never been allowed to make a decision or be given a choice as to which road I went down. Unfortunately, any guilt or regrets we carry, regardless of whose guilt it is, will keep us stuck.

Although it took me many years to understand the concept and deal with the guilt issues, it felt like a release when I eventually let go. Through different perceptions, my outlook began to change and so did my life. I had learned that those regrets never belonged to me.

At that point, I slowly began to work on the changes I needed to make that were holding me back. But for some of us the mind continues to play tricks and though we try to tell ourselves we’re okay, we’re not when we play back the tapes.

Any new decisions I made became a stepping-stone to yet more change and yet more lessons for me to learn. As I continue to evolve and grow spiritually, I rely on my intuition to help me pave the way on my decisions, so that I live with no regrets moving forward.

4 Jul, 2012

4 thoughts on “Living with no regrets

  1. I have a few regrets that I can’t change, but I can do better now to improve my life.

    I think as we see our downfalls we should leave them in the past and move on in a better direction and change now. Don’t keep having those regrets or your life will be full of “I wish I had’s…” Now I say I’m glad I did.

    Growing up, my parents did make a lot of decisions for me, but that is what parents do and mine made those decisions even when I was a teenager in 12th grade. I didn’t get to go on trips with my classmates because my parents didn’t think I would be safe enough, but I’m over it.

    I’ve forgiven them for holding me back from a few things. I’m probably better off now anyway.

    1. I think we all probably do Lisa. Regrets tend to get a grip until we deal with them and let them go.

      I think you’re right. Parents particularly when you and I were growing up did tend to make decisions for us, based on what they wanted for us, but not necessarily what we would have wanted for ourselves.

      I like you have turned my back on my regrets and in some ways I have now made up for them and I’m in a better place for it. I believe regrets can make us stronger and more determined as we work to change what’s been, so it’s not all bad.

      I am pleased you feel better about your regrets and have chosen to forgive your parents. I still believe parents parent with their own set of tools given how they’ve been parented by their parents. But as generations move on, some of us will do better.

  2. It’s important not to live with regrets as it’s a very negative state. It’s better to do something about them, no matter how small.

    We can’t change the past so we must work as much as possible to ensure it’s influences don’t hurt us.

    1. I agree with you.

      We cannot always do something about the past, but believe we can change the way we perceive the past so that we live our lives without feeling bad about any regrets we’ve left behind.

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