Living with Stigma

I normalise my thoughts, by writing about what I deal with on my blog. I take away the stigma. You would have to be asleep at the wheel not to be aware. Around disability and mental health, we more than most live with stigma.

When a person is labelled by an illness or disability, when others view them in a negative way because they have personal traits or distinguishing characteristics that are deemed a disadvantage, then you know you’re dealing with stigma; where what you deal with is ignored, where no one owns up to admitting they need to make you and your disability inclusive.

You know you’re dealing with stigma, when others fail to talk about, or bring what you deal with into every day. We can all change our perceptions, the way we look at something and as soon as we do, attitudes can change.

There are days where I struggle with certain aspects of my disability. I have reconciled much of what I deal with, but as I continue to present differently, I am stigmatised and that never goes away.

If something isn’t working, you seek to understand why, to change it through new perceptions. Those like myself with a disability cannot change how we view and see the world, but others can choose to help us see our lives differently, by talking about what we deal with and bring it into our every day.

We all have a role in society to help and bring disability and mental health into everyday situations so that those people living with something, feel inclusive, not exclusive. It is important mental health and illness relating to mental health are talked about, in families and society.

Having a mental illness or a physical disability needs to be normalised. It is wrong for others to ignore, label, or judge. As a society we need to get rid of the stigma associated with mental illness, disability, race and gender.


12 Mar, 2021

4 thoughts on “Living with Stigma

  1. Yes, there are many stigmas out there. They hear things like mental health issues and they automatically assume you’re bat shit crazy, which isn’t always the case.

    This is why I don’t mention them. I have learned how to present myself as normal to avoid those problems. The problem is that I’m anything but, most of my life has been spent faking it.

    People seem to think my life is so great because I don’t have to deal with certain issues, but it’s not the case, as I still have issues to deal with that create stigmas.

    1. Thanks Randy. What I like is that you’re honest and open about what you deal with. You wear your heart on your sleeve.

      Yes, you have things that you deal with in the same way others have things that they deal with, but no matter what anyone deals with, there needs to be support in place. With more understanding there would be less misunderstanding, and less stigmas to deal with.

      Stigmas are hard enough, made harder when you’re living without the mental and emotional support and you’re feeling alone.

  2. Unfortunately, we live in a society which largely endorses stigmatising ideas, without thinking about the impact of these negative attitudes on mental health.

    Stigma is a terrible thing and we still have a long way to go before we neutralise stigma, and as you say normalise all the things which are the subject of stigma.

    1. Thanks. Yes, being on the receiving end of stigma isn’t pleasant. It’s one of those things that you know is there, you know it’s happening, and you can’t say anything.

      But as you say it’s a terrible thing. Those of us with a disability will be more aware of what it means to be stigmatised.

      It’s usually attributable to those who deal with something, so anyone with weight problems, anyone who has a stutter, a child who is made to wear glasses. Anything and everything that changes the way others see you.

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