I often take time to reflect on my past. I believe it’s there to help me learn, so that I can go on to make new life choices. There will always be times where it’s hard but necessary.
Reflection is a good tool to use. Nothing to be anxious about. Reflection allows us to grow spiritually, whilst we learn how to begin to perceive new thoughts in more positive ways, particularly if some of our choices have turned out to be less than positive or successful.
I believe when we can use our past as a tool without making the same mistakes twice, we will have learned our lessons and learned them well. It’s easy to feel guilty about what we didn’t do or failed at, but what purpose will it serve? Any decision we make is usually the right decision at that time, otherwise we wouldn’t have made the decision in the first place.
It’s easy to look back and wish we hadn’t. Forced decisions never reflect our own thoughts or sentiments and yet it’s easy to feel guilty about them. If our lessons become a learned experience and we can go on to change our future, then those decisions are never wasted. They become our lessons.
We cannot change the past or the people who make our decisions for us, but we can change the way we perceive those decisions so that we lose the guilt and bitterness tag attached to them.
Change is always necessary. The past is also necessary so that we can learn new outcomes. Without the past we have no lessons. Changes can sometimes be complicated, but can result in new experiences and positive outcomes.
Be aware of your feelings and never lose sight of what you feel you have achieved. I went through a phase of feeling guilty for everything. All my decisions were forced decisions. It’s never easy living with other people’s decisions, whether those decisions turn out to be successful for us or not. They’re not our decisions that will always be the problem.
We’re all keen to achieve, when that doesn’t happen we still carry the guilt, regardless of who made the final decision.