I often take time to reflect on my past, as I believe it helps me pave the way forward. There will always be times when it’s hard, but necessary.
I go back to not knowing about having a disability and remembering my struggles. Having to work through everything blindly was difficult and having to fight my corner, impossible. With no understanding and empathy, it was an endless battle: it was never ending.
I believe reflection is a good tool to help us work through our past and family lives. It allows us to grow mentally and emotionally, helping us to look at our lives more positively, differently. When we can use our past as a tool without making the same mistakes, we will have learned our lessons.
Some benefits of using reflection:
- Reflection helps us identify and learn from our mistakes;
- It gives us a clear perspective;
- Through a clearer perspective using reflection helps us change;
- When we’ve mastered it for ourselves we can help others;
- It can make us happier.
It’s easy to look at our lives and feel guilty about what we’ve failed at, decisions made or missed out on, but that doesn’t serve any purpose. It just creates more stress and irritabilities. Forced decisions that don’t reflect our own thoughts or sentiments, can and do make us feel guilty.
If issues become something learned and we can make future changes from them, then those issues will never be wasted. We cannot change the past, but we can change the way we look at the past. Studying the past is necessary because understanding certain aspects of it will help shape our future with new and better outcomes.
Without the past, we have nothing to check, measure and balance against. Any changes we can make from the past, although they may seem difficult or complicated, can result in new positive experiences and opportunities.