As a child growing up with a disability I didn’t know I had, ‘I got on with it.’ Although I hated not being able to function normally and with no emotional support, something inside of me just knew this wasn’t about me.
And that became the driving force behind my thinking. I wasn’t into self-pity. I didn’t like my leg or the shape of my foot, but I knew I didn’t hate myself. I became angry because I was struggling to function emotionally.
We’re born with our emotions in-tact, therefore low self-esteem isn’t part of that scenario. Our negative childhood experiences start with our parents, and although that is true for me, there are also many other influences around us that sadly impact our emotional development.
It’s not always easy for us to stay positive or keep our thoughts grounded. What we tell ourselves is inherent. It’s also got something to do with how we cope with certain situations, where that becomes our coping mechanism. It’s easy to pull ourselves down.
Although we don’t or can’t always see what low self-esteem does to us in the longer-term, it changes our perceptions if we struggle with it for long enough. We tend to pick holes in ourselves and yet if we’re already picking holes, we can work to build ourselves up instead.
I find it sad that the most important thing we possess such as the soul and spirit is something we don’t even consider and as a result, we ignore and in some cases abuse them. We’re here on a spiritual journey. Picking holes and self-loathing is going against the essence of our being.
Instead, we must learn how to cultivate gratitude and make that a permanent fixture in our lives. We must stop looking at ourselves as a force to be reckoned with and instead see ourselves as someone we admire. If used often enough, gratitude becomes the driving force behind our ambition and humility.
Gratitude is the platform to courage. It is also the driving force behind us ‘giving back’ and giving back is the sole purpose of our journey here.