If I were to make one change this year, it would be to lower my expectations. When it comes to our lives, we put countless expectations out there, whether it’s through a person, place or thing. We anticipate people will do things, make things happen and then feel let down when they don’t.
And whilst people have their own expectations of us and how they expect us to behave and we meet their expectations, our expectations of them meeting the same exacting standards don’t happen. That’s another reason why we must lower our expectations. The more expectations we have, the harder we will fall and the more demoralised we will become.
Emotional happiness is often implicated by the expectations we place on ourselves. Unfortunately, the expectations we place on ourselves are usually the expectations our family place on us and we in turn place those expectations on others, including our family. It stands to reason the less we expect, emotionally the happier we will be.
I tend to go with the wait and see how things work out scenario, so I don’t anticipate and don’t expect, even for myself. That way I’m not disappointed or demoralised if something doesn’t work out the way I’d hope. It’s the way I have always done things. I also think when things happen for a reason that takes away our expectations.
When it comes to others, they perhaps cannot always give of themselves in the same way we can, because of how they deal with what they deal with. That’s also another reason why we must learn to lower our expectations.
If others could give in any other way, they would. But we’re all capable of learning more and mustn’t give up on working together to help with those expectations.