Making opportunities

I remember having a conversation with my father about him being forced to leave school at 12 and that it was his biggest regret. As he continued to harbour regret, the sad reality was that he didn’t see the life he could have had, but then lots of us don’t.

We’re too obsessed with what we don’t have, to turn things around. Just because something isn’t afforded to us, doesn’t mean we can’t make it happen at a later stage. It was never on the cards that I would go to university or at least study to diploma level, but years later when the opportunity arose, having never given up on the idea I decided to go back into study.

Just because the opportunities aren’t there initially, doesn’t mean we can’t make opportunities happen. There’s no point in talking about something constantly if we’re not going to change it. Talking makes us miserable and tends to reinforce where we are and what we already know.

It never registered as a child that university would never be on the cards for me because of my parentage. I chose not to see it as my problem. I believe it’s often far easier to let go of something, when the decision is out of our hands, because the other person becomes accountable.

I also think that just because we don’t achieve something or have the opportunities, doesn’t mean we never should or aren’t capable. There is an element of conditioning brought about by our environment, our childhood and what decisions our parents makes for us, but as the adult the choices are ours for us to make.

Blaming our parents, our past and our environment won’t help us go on to create new opportunities. Life itself brings new opportunities into the equation. There will always be time to make up for lost opportunities, but it’s down to us to act on them.

19 Sep, 2013

4 thoughts on “Making opportunities

  1. I tend to blame myself for missing the opportunity of going away to school. I was ‘in love’ or thought I was and didn’t want to leave my boyfriend. Crazy thing that I did. I did go to the local community college and get my diploma in nursing but I was still really undecided about that.

    After being a nurse for 25 years I’m ready to embark on a new level of helping people with natural nutrition and I’m going to make it happen. It’s my goal now to get my BS in natural health, MS and PhD in clinical nutrition.

    I have the school picked out and have spoken to them. I just have to send in paper work to start, but I have new responsibilities that have to be taken care of first. Eventually I’ll go and it will be my decision.

    I usually set my mind to doing things and then I eventually get it done. I don’t let people stand in my way like I used to. It’s my life and I have to live it. No one else can live it for me. I’ve had to learn that with my two daughters. I’ve had to let go and let them live their lives so they can learn from their experiences.

    I was watching Steve Harvey yesterday and he gave his plan of success. 1 Identify what you want. 2 Write it down. 3 Lay out the plan step-by-step. 4 Know your work effort and 5 Have faith and believe. I think that’s a pretty good plan.

    1. Thanks Lisa. Any plans are fine as long as life doesn’t get in the way. As you rightly say in your response you have other things that are taking priority in your life right now, which need to be addressed first.

      If life was as clear cut as Steve Harvey suggests, the world wouldn’t be in so much turmoil. Individually we have our lives to deal with and sometimes life itself and other people get in our way.

      I was literally 46, when I managed to turn my life around. Even with Steve’s plan in place it would never have happened before that time because of external influences.

      In my own opinion and with no disrespect to Steve Harvey, his view seems somewhat over simplistic. Often our realities don’t work out in the way he suggests. I wish life were as simple as that.

  2. Great post today and I agree completely.

    I was fortunate, as I had enough freedom to make my own opportunities when I was younger. Of course looking back now, I can see that I could have made much more of those opportunities, but as least most decisions were mine and not somebody else’s and I am comfortable with that.

    Your last paragraph says it all.

    1. Thank you. Whether we look back or not on our life, our decisions or on our opportunities, we’re usually comfortable with those decisions or opportunities.

      As time moves on you probably wouldn’t have made those particular decisions, but they were right for you and were right for that time. No one can argue with that.

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