Meddling

Why do families in general find it necessary to meddle or interfere in each other’s lives? Families usually do it because they care and want to help, but that’s where the similarities end.

It tends to happen between people who are close. From my own experience the closer you are, the more meddling is likely to happen. I believe certain family members do care, but when we begin to overstep the mark and our boundaries that meddling happens.

Those who meddle often will have a strong emotional reaction to want to help someone with their life, or their circumstances, but to me that should be the time to take a step back. It’s fine if the other person is asking for advice, but not so fine if they don’t want advice, but you decide to give it to them anyway.

Try as we might, there are people who show these character traits. They don’t seem to be able to stop themselves. Even if you told that person in a tactful way to stop interfering, the odds are two to three days later they would do the same thing, either through a phone call or a knock at the door.

So, next time, why not stand back and put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If the shoe were on the other foot, would you be happy for someone to meddle in your life?

If your answer is No, then perhaps it’s time to stop doing it.


14 Aug, 2012

4 thoughts on “Meddling

  1. Yeah, sometimes you feel like you’re trying to help, but you’re actually meddling.

    I think we all have experienced it before; all we can do is step back and learn from our mistakes.

  2. I think some people meddle without realising they are and others enjoy it.

    Either way it’s harmful at its least and destructive at its worst. I know it is easier said than done, but the recipient should be able to confront the perpetrator, to try to reach a position they are happy with.

    1. You are right, but in reality they never do. It’s a character trait they use to get through life.

      As with all of my beliefs, I believe this one can be changed too. We just have to want to change. That has to be the starting point.

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