More about our comfort zones

Doing something that we know we may struggle with, seems a little odd, right? More scary than odd. I have already written a blog about exploring our boundaries and embarking on a journey, which continually challenges us, as far as comfort zones are concerned.

I thought I would elaborate further. I came across this quote, which caught my eye, by Juan Williams who talks about and encourages us to come out of our own space.

“Go beyond what makes you comfortable. Open yourself to ideas, events, relationships that make you uncomfortable. Travel places, where you know no one. Learn another language. Create art, even though you’re not an artist. Argue with people. Fall down. Get up. Read books, all sorts of books.”

One of the reasons we stay within our comfort zone is because of the fear of coming out of it, but by understanding and addressing our fears, we allow ourselves to move through the fears we feel. We tend to reach a brick wall.

How many of us have ever taken emotional risks?

Risks like handing in a resignation letter because we’ve decided to move on to another job, or we’ve decided to move abroad on to something that gives us more purpose that will help us grow and live our lives the way we want, rather than the way others want us to live.

When we stay in a routine, it’s often because we’re reluctant to move, so we follow the norm. Financially we’re doing okay, we can pay the mortgage, we can pay our bills. We also know the job, we know the people, we know the set up, we’re comfortable. To come away from that will give us more uncertainty and that is why we shy away.

By testing our resilience, we are able to come out from our comfort zone, so that we get to experience more of life. It takes time, but it’s certainly doable. If I had have taken time to think about setting up and writing for the Diary, I’d still be waiting to get off the starting block.

Sometimes it really is a necessity. Closing one door to open another. We get to that point where it’s now or never. That we can’t go back that we must go forward. If you’re already thinking that you need to take the plunge, then do it. I would say, rather try and fail than not try at all.

30 Nov, 2010

4 thoughts on “More about our comfort zones

  1. Staying in my comfort zone has been what has always kept me stuck in life. I’m so afraid to go out of it, that it’s almost pathetic the state that I’m in right now.

    I have to make a choice now that really takes me out of my comfort zone, so we’ll just have to wait and see what happens.

    It would be very nice to be able to experience more of life and not always be so afraid of everything!

  2. Randy I totally understand you, but sometimes we have to make the choice to ‘feel the fear’ so that we can move forward with our lives. To wait and see without making a decision won’t help, we will still be where we are now in 6 months time.

    The other end isn’t as scary as we think it’s going to be, but our life often gets better because of it, we just don’t know it! Thanks for posting.

  3. At one time in the last few years my husband said he thought I had some kind of social disorder where I didn’t want to go anywhere but rather stay at home.

    I felt comfortable in my home and the crowds usually got to me. I’ve come out of it though and get out more often. I just try not to overdo it. We’ve travelled to other countries on cruises and have friends that we visit whenever we can.

    I’m trying to break the habit of getting to set in my ways.

    1. Lisa I am not sure just because you prefer to stay in that gives you a kind of social disorder. ‘The new going out is the new staying in.’ I much prefer to stay in, particularly in the winter time when it’s cold and miserable. I wouldn’t say anyone choosing to do that has a social disorder.

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