More about our comfort zones

Doing something that you know you struggle with seems a little odd, right? Or perhaps it’s more scary, than odd. I came across this quote, which caught my eye, by Juan Williams who talks about and encourages us to come out of our own space.

“Go beyond what makes you comfortable. Open yourself to ideas, events, relationships that make you uncomfortable. Travel places where you know no one. Learn another language. Create art, even though you’re not an artist. Argue with people. Fall down. Get up. Read books, all sorts of books.”

One of the reasons we stay within our comfort zones is because we fear coming out of it, but by understanding and addressing our fears, we are able to move through the fears. We tend to reach a brick wall without it. We stay in a routine because we’re reluctant to venture away from it.

Our routine is familiar, so we go with familiar, with the norm. Financially we’re managing, we can pay the mortgage, we can pay our bills. We know the job, we know the people, we know the set up, we’re comfortable. It’s what we know. To come away from that gives us more uncertainty.

By testing our resilience, we come out of our comfort zone. If I’d have taken time to think about setting up The Diary, I’d still be waiting to get off the starting block. Sometimes we just have to go with what scares us, get the job done.

Choose to close one door and open another. If you think you might want to take the plunge, then do it. Rather try and fail than not try at all.

25 Nov, 2010

4 thoughts on “More about our comfort zones

  1. Staying in my comfort zone has been what has always kept me stuck in life. I’m so afraid to go out of it, that it’s almost pathetic the state that I’m in right now.

    I have to make a choice now that really takes me out of my comfort zone, so we’ll just have to wait and see what happens.

    It would be very nice to be able to experience more of life and not always be so afraid of everything!

  2. Randy I totally understand you, but sometimes we have to make the choice to ‘feel the fear’ so that we can move forward with our lives. To wait and see without making a decision won’t help, we will still be where we are now in 6 months time.

    The other end isn’t as scary as we think it’s going to be, but our life often gets better because of it, we just don’t know it! Thanks for posting.

  3. At one time in the last few years my husband said he thought I had some kind of social disorder where I didn’t want to go anywhere but rather stay at home.

    I felt comfortable in my home and the crowds usually got to me. I’ve come out of it though and get out more often. I just try not to overdo it. We’ve travelled to other countries on cruises and have friends that we visit whenever we can.

    I’m trying to break the habit of getting to set in my ways.

    1. Lisa I am not sure just because you prefer to stay in that gives you a kind of social disorder. ‘The new going out is the new staying in.’ I much prefer to stay in, particularly in the winter time when it’s cold and miserable. I wouldn’t say anyone choosing to do that has a social disorder.

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