Like children need boundaries, so perhaps too do families. We need to set boundaries with family. We need to let them know what’s acceptable.
From my own experience we need to say No if we don’t want to do what our family want, but they have to accept we’re saying No. We have to be true to ourselves and go with what we want, not what our family want. That way we will always stay true to our own beliefs.
As a final resort, it may be better for some of us to keep our distance from those family members. We spend our lives having to deal with unhappy memories. Working on ourselves to try to understand why siblings or family choose to behave the way they do.
When we have a clearer understanding on certain situations, we will find it easier to bring about acceptance. Unless a family member comes forward and says, “I got it wrong,” it’s often difficult to bring closure; at best we may find a form of acceptance.
Of course we won’t always have the answers, but sometimes we need to look for those answers from within. We shouldn’t give up. We only have one crack at the life thing, we owe it to ourselves to make sure it’s a good one.