This has been a particularly hard blog for me to write. To realise our value as a person is to stop identifying ourselves as a victim. We stay a victim, because we fail to see our full worth and potential and instead allow others to take control.
Although I personally never equated not knowing I had cerebral palsy with being a victim, looking back that is exactly what I was, but abuse isn’t about the victim. It’s about someone else’s inability to see their own worth and the abuse being an expression of their worth.
I believe that when we’re able to see and understand that, we can work at change. When we come to work through circumstances that include abuse, we should be left with stability and a renewed compassion that has the potential to rid us of resentful and angry behaviour. Compassion is a stepping-stone that allows us to demand meaningful and lasting change in our relationships.
When we come to reclaim our sense of self, and return to who we were before the abuse, we will slowly begin to feel better in ourselves. When we can see the bigger picture through other people’s roles and how they made us feel, we will also come to understand our presenting behaviour better.
We must consciously choose whether we want to stay a victim or become victorious. From my own experiences, I believe that once we learn to deal with abuse, we will have the opportunity of reconnecting with ourselves and our lives once more.