I have never gone into detail around the issues surrounding my birth and why I sustained a brain injury, so perhaps now is a good time to talk about it.
Before my father passed, he mentioned he was at home when my mum went into labour. Although when I was born, fathers weren’t present when their wives were giving birth, mine was a multiple birth and that should have alarmed someone.
Also, mum telling me my birth was difficult birth, suggests giving birth for her met with difficulties. My father had asked for a consultant delivery.
Whilst my twin was born safely, mum got into difficulties at the time just before I was born and with my father not being at the hospital and the consultant or nursing staff not keeping an eye on mum, she got into difficultly and I went on to have a stroke, which could have completely been avoided.
Had my father been in the hospital and the nursing staff and consultant been checking on mum periodically throughout the procedure, I would have been safely delivered. Those are the facts.
Whilst I know this life was already mapped out for me and my disability already belonged to me, it doesn’t change how I feel about the years of struggles I was made to go through. My grief, makes me see everything clearer.