Non-recognised milestones

I have come to realise that not only did I miss out on my milestones growing up, because my learning wasn’t normal, milestones associated with adolescence, maturity and the emotions one associates with milestones, I also struggled to reach.

The bad part is that the part of my brain, which is damaged is the part that controls the emotions, everything from what I feel to what I think, to my understanding of what I feel. It is the emotions that are linked to the milestones we’re supposed to experience and those are what I missed out on.

The good part is that I have slowly learned to adapt, through my intuition and that has brought about new understanding on issues I have to deal with. The hard part is other people’s understanding of how my emotions function and the frustration they have.

If I were to relive my life, I would still go on to miss out on all of my milestones and whilst I can’t get those back, I am comforted by the fact that I know I couldn’t have done anything differently if I had my time again.


30 Jan, 2016

2 thoughts on “Non-recognised milestones

  1. How very true since most people can clearly remember the milestones they experienced as kids! I know I went through quite a few of them, like puberty and all that fun, but nobody ever really noticed.

    Our parents hardly recognised any of our accomplishments such as us getting good grades or my brother being a great wrestler in high school. It never really seemed to matter to them, so why would we have any real feelings about anything?

    You end up becoming ambivalent and apathetic about life to the point where you wonder why you even bother. People really can’t contemplate what it was like growing up in that kind of environment.

    It explains why I have always felt like there was something missing that I couldn’t quite put my finger on. So many parts of my life went unnoticed that it’s no wonder I have such a hard time remembering them.

    Kind of hard to when you have parents that barely acknowledge your existence, let alone celebrate things like your birthday.

    We had to learn how to survive and mostly just existed, so we didn’t have much of a chance to live. I’m trying very hard to change things now, at my age, but it isn’t an overnight process like a lot of people seem to think.

    You don’t go from feeling like a robot to a human being overnight!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes unless we have something like brain damage that changes the way we neurologically function, everyone should remember their milestones.

      Milestones are important, because they shape our lives as individuals and are part of the spiritual growth scenario.

      It’s not easy of course when parents choose not to acknowledge their children’s milestones and even though we know our parents haven’t, we still have to function in our lives.

      Although it takes time to reconcile, it’s important we do. If something doesn’t happen, there is no real point in holding on to the negativity that surrounds that particular issue.

      From my own experiences, there’s never a right or wrong time to move on, but perhaps it’s time.

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