As children, we don’t stop to question the decisions our parents make for us. We may assume their decisions are in our best interests and for our own good.
But as parents, we either make decisions for our children based on what we want, or we may make decisions based on our children’s best interests.
Early on and learning on the job, I came to understand how important it was for my children to be independent free-thinkers. It is important to make decisions for children, based on the child and not on what we may want for ourselves.
Living with a physical disability as a child, helped me see life differently. I spent my formative years continually observing my world. It wasn’t something I could pin-point or understand at the time, things just felt different. I was never encouraged to be an independent thinker, but I was aware of how things should have been.
The inability of parents to let go of their children can stem from their own insecurities, but it may not be something they stop to question. Looking back on my own life, I missed out on support, which I never stopped to question.