As children, we don’t stop to question the decisions our parents make for us. We assume their decisions will be in our best interests, for our own good.
As parents, we can either make decisions for our children based on what we want, or we can make decisions based on our children’s best interests. Early on in parenting and learning on the job, I came to understand how important it was for my children to be independent and free-thinking. It is important any decisions parents make, are based on their children and not on what they want for themselves.
I am lucky in a way. Living with a physical disability as a child, helped me see life differently. I spent my formative years continually observing my world. It wasn’t something I could pin-point or even understand at the time, things just felt different. It would go on to take me another forty years to fully understand. Although I was never allowed to be independent, I was aware of how things should have been.
The inability of parents to let go of their children stems from their own insecurities, but that it’s perhaps not something they ever stop to question and they need to. Looking back on my own life, I missed out on support and encouragement, which could have led to certain possibilities.