Not stopping to question

As a child, I didn’t stop to question the decisions my parents made for me. I assumed those decisions would be in my own best interests, for my own good.

As parents, we can either make decisions for our children based on what we want, or we can make them based on our children’s best interests. Learning on the job, I came to know and understand how important it was for my children to be independent. It is important parents’ decisions are based on their children and not on them.

Living with a physical disability as a child helped me see life differently. I spent my life continually observing my world. Although I wasn’t independent, I was aware of how things should have been. The inability of some parents to let go of their children, stems from their own insecurities, but it’s not something they ever stop to question.

Looking back on my own life, I missed out on encouragement and support, which could have led to certain possibilities. Emotionally I have managed to move on, changing many things along the way. My Diary is testament to that. I cannot turn the clock back on my experiences growing up, but I can make a difference for my family and now others through my writing.

I feel as though that is what I am doing. I am now making a difference. I’m happy with that.


27 Aug, 2012

4 thoughts on “Not stopping to question

  1. I can relate in a way.

    I wasn’t brought up to be independent either and to an extent I am still dependent on my husband for certain things, but I think I’m just being lazy in letting him take care of certain things. I don’t want to the stress of dealing with them.

    I have finally let my daughter go to live her own life and discover the world for herself. My parents kept me close until the day I was married.

    I even had a curfew til I was married!!

    1. I wasn’t independent from my family Lisa, but I was independent in other ways. Emotionally I made myself independent, even though I wasn’t allowed to do anything for myself.

      I am completely independent in my own right now and still am. I think it’s important for anyone to have their own emotional independence. I am happy to have stress as long as it means I get to make my own decisions.

      The real stress for me comes when someone tells me what to do, or tells me how to do it. My life was made up of that for many years.

      In any relationship there needs to be a balance.

    1. You’re right. I think parents do try too hard to some extent, but with so many outside influences it’s hard not to.

      Children change and grow a lot quicker than they used to. Parents are trying to fit in too.

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