Old at any age

As a child, I used to think people as they aged were more likely to have old mentalities, but years on I think it’s simply not true. There is no difference between someone being 36 or 60.

We all have the ability to learn, adapt and find new ways to move forward, or we can choose not to. Our mentality and fixed ways of thinking will always play its part in our outlook and disposition. Society is too quick to label the older generation.

Life is about outlook, the younger our outlook, the more we will adapt. I have known people who have been stuck for most of their adult lives and continue to stay stuck because of their fixed ways of thinking, absolutely nothing to do with their age. It’s having blinkers on that keeps us stuck and blinkers can be acquired at any age.

Our fixed ways of thinking have everything to do with our upbringing and that is what makes us old. Age is irrelevant.

26 Feb, 2015

10 thoughts on “Old at any age

  1. This is very true. I know 20 year old people who have an older outlook than me and I don’t think that’s a good thing. It’s okay to have a ‘mature’ outlook, but an ‘old’ outlook doesn’t do us any good and it’s a bit sad for someone to go through their life like that.

    We all have problems in life, some big, some small and some huge; but I am certain that a positive and young outlook does benefit us psychologically, even if it gets me into trouble with some people more times than I care to mention.

    1. I agree. Yes an older outlook at such a young age isn’t such a good thing, but having an older outlook at an older age isn’t great either; it’s important for us to stay and think young. It’s what keeps us young mentally.

      Reading between the lines here, I would say it’s probably not your young and positive outlook that gets you into trouble; we can all have that and it helps if we do; but it’s a question of timing and implementation and making sure that what we say fits in with other people and what they think and feel.

      It’s something we must all learn, but not something we will all do in our lifetime. We can think and be old at any age, but the key is to understand our boundaries and that’s what some of us will fail at. It’s that, which often gets us into trouble.

  2. Yes, people can get stuck in their way of thinking and never do much to change their situations!

    I’ve been watching this the past few years with a niece who has Asperger’s and a father who doesn’t seem to grasp the concept that she has to be treated differently than other children. It’s just very frustrating when she isn’t that hard to figure out, but he seems to refuse to want to change his way of dealing with her!

    Talk about not being able to teach an old dog new tricks. It just points out the way that I don’t want to live where everything is either “black” or “white.” I spent far too many years living with blinders on and missed out on so much that life has to offer!

    People who are “young at heart,” do seem to enjoy living so much more. I saw a post on Facebook of a man close to my age who dropped dead of a heart attack, which means that life can change so drastically in a heart beat!

    I’m trying to change my mindset so that I can hopefully make the best of what time I do have left since I’m not dead just yet!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes we’re never sure what’s just round the corner, so to stay stuck in a never ending emotional pattern isn’t the best scenario.

      I think your niece and her situation with her father teaches us that things are not always as difficult as they may seem. That sometimes we make life harder for ourselves, when we really don’t have to.

      I believe that as human beings, it is important that we learn to evolve; move on and in doing so change so that we fit into our lives better; but to do that we must change our outlook, or mentality.

      In the long run, it will not only make our lives better, but will help the communication process between us and other people better too.

  3. I totally agree! That’s why I don’t see myself as 50 as some people see it. I’m younger than my age and that’s how it will stay.

  4. Growing up with parents with a closed mentality wasn’t easy. They were and still are set in the ways they were raised.

    Their lack of moving forward and adapting new ideas/ways made it difficult to understand us kids. My dad is the worst, maybe that’s why none of my siblings talk to him. It’s always his way and no other way.

    I go through something similar with my husband now. He sometimes adapts ideas from the way he was raised and applies them in his parenting. If they didn’t work on him what makes him believe they will work on our kids.

    1. Thanks Maria. I totally resonate with your thinking on this and ditto on your experiences. Some of my experiences were very similar to that of your own.

      It’s important for us to put our own stamp on our parenting with our children and not that of our parents. I believe it’s the biggest mistake we will make.

  5. I believe age is irrelevant in many things, but not all. I would love to have the physical stamina of an 18 year old man, but I wouldn’t trade his wisdom for mine any day.

    But at any age we all need love, laughter and positive companionship with a warm spirit.

    1. Thanks Tim. I’m not sure I’d want that kind of stamina to be honest. There’s probably a good reason why we don’t, but would like to have slightly more than I have. Unfortunately CP doesn’t lend itself to stamina!!

      From what I know not all older people have wisdom, (I’ve come across one or two) but agree with you that we have more opportunities for us to attain wisdom the older we get, through our vast experiences. Unfortunately some of us live with blinkers on and therefore fail to impart their wisdom.

      I love your last paragraph and agree. How lovely that sounds.

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