Our emotional suffering on past events will end when we decide we don’t want the struggle anymore.
Until then, our unconscious thoughts will continue to play out the same negative patterns that create the initial panic when we think of past events, particularly the ones we have had no control over.
I’ve come to believe that it is often the deceit of the event that holds us back, not the event itself. When we come to understand that, our perceptions and attitude should change for good, particularly when we know it’s not something we could have changed.
As for carrying other people’s baggage and getting ill through the process, well that isn’t worth the stress. Our life is worth more than owning and carrying someone else’s guilt.