Others’ understanding autism

Autism must be explored by others, so they may understand how we present. For those of us who deal with autism, we may get a bad press because others don’t understand us and because they can find us intense.

Having only been diagnosed with autism in January 2019, I have spent most of my life trying to adapt into a normal life with a neurological disability I didn’t know I had. My life would never be normal. Thankfully times have changed and disability is more accepted today, but when it comes to disability, it is not up to us to fit in, it is up to others to make sure they’re inclusive.

It is important others are mindful of what autism is and how we may interact. Because we may struggle to fit in, it makes it even more important for others to understand and want to help us. Others must want to know what we deal with.

Although autism presents differently for each of us, autism isn’t difficult to understand. The more others choose to learn about what we deal with, the more they will understand us. Once they become better at understanding, they will be better equipped to help us modify the situations that cause us difficulties.

It is important others help us focus on what they know we can do, rather than what they know we struggle with.

25 Jan, 2019

4 thoughts on “Others’ understanding autism

  1. Yes, it would be very helpful if people at least made an attempt to try to understand what autism is and how to help those with autism deal with it.

    People aren’t compassionate or understanding about others they label as different. The stigmas that come with Autism and even cerebral palsy are due to a lack of understanding, assuming people with these conditions are mentally retarded, which is not always the case.

    People who haven’t had to deal with any of these issues can’t be blamed for their ignorance, but there isn’t any reason why they couldn’t try to learn about what others might deal with.

    It would be great if they could focus on getting to know the person first before slapping any labels on them.

  2. Thanks Randy. Yes, there is no reason or excuse for labels. Your last paragraph sums up your response beautifully.

    Where you say, ‘It would be great if they could focus on getting to know the person first before slapping any labels on them.’ I would just add it’s important we get to know others and what they may bring to the relationship.

    Truthfully, if we did, there wouldn’t be a need for labels.

  3. Understanding that Autism is a developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with and relates to other people, and how they experience the world around them, is so important and there is no excuse for ignorance.

    It annoys me that people make it an issue for the person not themselves. It is much also more common than people think, and yet we are only just beginning to attempt to overcome the prejudice around this and other mental illnesses.

    This seems a good place for me to say that I have been reading your blogs for a number of years now and you continue to amaze me with your clarity of thinking and positivity. We can all learn so much from you.

    1. Thank you! Yes, it’s wrong that others make an issue for people like me when I am only doing the best that I can given my neurological difficulties.

      Having a disability has given me a gift which I am grateful for, but I never take my life or what I have for granted, I merely seek to understand my unique set of circumstances and experiences, through my blog.

      Although I have emotionally struggled in my life and there’s no getting away from that, I simply choose to stand back and do and see things differently.

      Where I was angry, I have chosen not to be angry, where I was bitter I have chosen to change my thinking and expectations and find acceptance.

      Where we have independence, we do get to choose the life we live.

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