Our cynical world

I grew up in a totally different world where people were more trusting of each other. We had very little reason to be cynical. We in part agreed with other people’s assessment of reality and if we couldn’t agree, we were happy to give them the benefit of the doubt. I’m not sure what’s changed for this to happen.

What is a cynic?

A cynic is a person who believes that people are motivated purely by self-interest, rather than acting for honourable or unselfish reasons. There are those who are naturally untrusting. They would rather look for reasons not to trust, than reasons to trust.

There may be times when they’ve convinced themselves they’ve found a reason not to trust when someone else knows that reason doesn’t exist. We shouldn’t have to convince others to trust, they must do that for themselves. We spend far too long worrying about what other people think.

On our part, we become more disillusioned the more we try to convince someone who doesn’t want to be convinced. When a person already exhibits those qualities, for us it’s a waste of time and energy trying to convince them otherwise.

It’s not easy dealing with someone who is constantly cynical about other people and life in general and if we have to, it’s actions that will prove the point we’re trying to make, not the words themselves. Having people in our lives that exhibit cynical behaviour can make communication almost impossible.

I would think in the longer term being cynical, not only impacts that person’s relationship with his family, but will impact other relationships as well. In fact, anyone they come into contact with.

8 Mar, 2014

2 thoughts on “Our cynical world

  1. I agree with everything you’ve written here. I too believe that actions, not words works for a lot of people. We have to show people what we mean.

    If someone doesn’t trust you, you have to prove that you can be trusted by your actions. I don’t believe I know anybody that’s a cynic, or I don’t think I do. I have met people that look for reasons not to trust, instead of reason’s to trust.

    I’m a very trustworthy person and I trust most people I meet until something happens and they prove me wrong about them.

    1. Thanks Lisa. In our lifetime I think we will all probably know at least one person with these character traits.

      I agree with your last sentence Lisa, we should trust everyone individually, unless that one person gives us reason for us not to trust them.

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