Our hang-ups

If we were to understand how we could be more comfortable in our own skin, our hang-ups wouldn’t seem so daunting and we’d get through our issues a lot quicker.

Unfortunately, whether we’re in our teens or in our twenties, it’s not always easy for us to understand the significance of our twenties in our teens and the significance of our thirties in our twenties. Even when we hear other people’s stories from people in that higher age group, we cannot always equate our now experiences to their stories.

Unfortunately, our thoughts and feelings as teenagers usually follow us through into our twenties, until we learn to change how we feel about ourselves. Perceptions can let us down at any age, but if we learn to be okay with ourselves, we will always see ourselves positively and that will have a marked effect on our thoughts and our life at any age.

The key is inner calm and learning to change our perceptions so that we let go of our emotional and physical issues. We cannot constantly continue to blame the age thing; that were expected to go through all of those years before we come through the other end being more accepting of ourselves. Unfortunately, society dictates the way we’re expected to feel that isn’t how it works, but that’s how we think it works.

Accepting ourselves has to come much earlier than that. We cannot wait to get into our thirties to get rid of our hang-ups. But once we are more accepting, any age or decade will come and go without a hitch. It is a mind-set thing.

26 Nov, 2013

10 thoughts on “Our hang-ups

  1. Unlike many people I know my age has never ever bothered me. I have just been able to get on with what I need to do at any age.

    I do know lots of folk who get depressed on birthdays, that take them into the next decade especially and they really don’t understand me when I try to explain the importance of being happy with ourselves, as you have explained.

    We do need to change our perceptions, but that is a societal thing rather than an individual responsibility in my view.

    1. For some it’s possibly the hang-ups we carry that bother us more than our age, but for others age will be a big factor. I think we have to be responsible and change our perceptions for ourselves and just be happy with ourselves.

      Dealing with hang-ups has to be something we deal with, but in many respects society makes that more difficult, given what’s out there in the media. I think the media compounds our problems, I agree… as does our childhood.

  2. I don’t think I’ve ever had a problem with my age, except that mentally I don’t feel the age I am. I feel younger, mentally. Physically I’m probably older given all the medical problems I have but I don’t worry about it.

    I do think society and the media especially have a lot to do with the age factor. It’s like they push the “look and feel younger card” a lot.

    This year though I have had fleeting thoughts about my age because I’m 49 and the big 50 is coming up next year, but it will just be another day.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I’m pleased that you haven’t. For many of us it’s our hang-ups we worry about and those come with any age.

      I think we have to ignore what society and the media push on us. Those who work in the media have a need to be and stay young and are pushed into taking drastic measures on the work they have done.

      I think we must work on ourselves and ignore what’s going on in the media and society as a whole. I am sure if we were to do that we would feel so much happier. As you say and I agree age is ONLY a number.

      If we feel good about ourselves, we’ll be less inclined to look outside at what’s happening in the media, in society and over our shoulder.

  3. I am very comfortable in my skin and with my age, although I’ve noticed how time accelerates a little faster as we get older.

    Society and the media do glamorize youth, but it always has. I think as we get older we naturally find a comfort level with our age and appreciate the wisdom that comes with it.

    1. Thanks Tim. I think you’re right glamorising youth has never gone away, but we’re probably more aware now of how much goes on in the media and in society. The problem is perfection and the lengths people will go to make themselves even more perfect as they age.

      I agree with you that as we get older, some of us will naturally find a comfort level with our age through how much more we’ve learned, but others may still struggle. I have seen both ends of the spectrum.

  4. Learning how to accept myself as I am seems to be a full time job at times.

    My hang-ups have ruled my life for so long that I don’t know how to live without them. It would be great to at least be able to be comfortable in my own skin for a change!

    Yes most people have a chance to do this when they’re so much younger but I’m having to learn how to do it later in my life. My daughter and I seem to be in very similar stages in our lives which is a good thing in some aspects. Now if I can convince her that working on these issues would help out both of us,that would be a start!

    I just would like for her to be happy and comfortable in her own skin so she could have more of a life than she does now.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes it’s hard to learn how to do that, when it’s not something you’ve been encouraged to do.

      It would be lovely for you both to feel comfortable in your own skin. I hope things change for you both soon.

  5. I had a few hangups when I was younger, but I have learned to love myself, flaws and all.

    Thank God that happened because I see people going through life stuck on the same thing and it seems so foolish. I’m a firm believer that with age comes wisdom and more self love.

    You have to look yourself in the eye and say I CAN DO THIS!

    1. I think we all have the capacity to be wise and agree with you that we can become more wise with age.

      Whilst I believe we all have the ability, not all of us will understand how to hone in on those abilities and you’re right that’s when we get stuck. Self-love works in exactly the same way.

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