Have you ever talked yourself into buying something because you’re convinced you need it, then when you’ve got it find it’s not what it was cracked up to be?
If I was told I had to choose between two cars I would choose the one I liked, but if someone told me to make my own choice I would walk away from both. It’s not something I need to have. I never knew how to explore these feelings in any great depth as a small child, but looking back it’s how I still do things.
Although it’s nice to have lovely things in our lives, those things shouldn’t define our personalities and who we are, but for some it changes exactly who we are. Instead of looking inside of us, at what brings us the most peace or makes us happier, we tend to look outside at what we think will make us feel happier.
Unfortunately, cars and possessions don’t replace how we feel about ourselves or other people. Our worldly possessions don’t turn bad moods into good; all they do is fill a void on what we think is missing. If we sort our lives out so that we began to feel more at peace within ourselves, we wouldn’t have this need for things.
We tend to justify and give ourselves reasons for why we need to buy things, instead of giving ourselves reasons why we shouldn’t. Retail therapy can only add to more frustration, because we won’t always know why what we buy doesn’t make us feel any better. Perhaps we need to deal with ourselves first, clear the decks on our baggage, then decide.