We will spend a lifetime trying to prove to our parents that we’re worthy, a lifetime trying to live up to our parents’ expectations. We will spend a lifetime trying to show them we’re capable; that we’re responsible; that we can make something of ourselves; of our lives.
Parents will have their own opinions and expectations, which they will pass on to us, as their parents did with them. My father’s only one expectation was that I get married. I never felt the need to prove myself, although my siblings have.
It is important parents allow their children to forge out their own path. When parents expect their children to act or be a certain way, the pressure is on for that child to conform. We let our children down, when we don’t allow them to be themselves.
Children with educated parents feel they have to prove themselves, so they meet expectations, but it’s far more important for children to be balanced and happy individuals. We need children to be educated, but once a child’s education is complete, they need to be able to get on in the world. An education without a balanced outlook can be soul destroying.
This has been my priority with my children. My children will never have to prove themselves to me, but they will have to prove their worth to themselves.