We spend a lifetime trying to prove to our parents that we’re worthy. We spend a lifetime trying to live up to our parents’ expectations. We spend a lifetime trying to show them we’re capable, that we’re responsible that we can make something of ourselves.
Sadly, parents will have their own expectations and opinions, which they will pass on to their children, as their parents did with them. My father had only one expectation that I get married. I believe having Cerebral Palsy saved me. I never personally felt the need to have to prove myself, although my siblings did.
I believe it’s important that parents allow their children to develop independently, so they can begin to make their own choices. When parents expect their children to act or be a certain way, the pressure is on for that child to conform. The irony is that we let our children down, just by not allowing them to be who they are meant to be.
In terms of education, children with educated parents feel they have to prove they are worthy, so they meet expectations, but the reality is, it’s far more important for children to be balanced and happy individuals first. Of course, we need children to be educated, but once a child’s education is complete, they need to be able to get on in their lives, in the world. An education without a balanced outlook can be soul destroying.
This has been my priority with my own children. My children will never have to prove themselves to me, but they will have to prove their worth to themselves.