As a child I had no idea about life and about my parents’ role, I just assumed they looked after and cared for me and that they had my best interests at heart. Some of us may be conditioned from an early age to accept the life our parents choose for us. Parents often parent the way they have been taught and the cycle continues and that’s not always good.
After my parents’ way of parenting, having children of my own, made me more aware of my own parenting. Children should be encouraged to make their own choices and way in life, with a little support and guidance from their parents, but ultimately the parents should not use control as a means of parenting.
For myself, I always try to use encouragement and positivity as a means of communication and although I follow spiritual values that bring more clarity into my decisions and my life and for my children too, I don’t insist my children follow my spiritual path.
I would like to think that some of the values associated with my own spiritual beliefs, which are part of what the universe tells us, such as understanding, sincerity, empathy, compassion and loyalty, are ones that my children will want to embrace too, further on in their lives.
But having lived on the other side of the coin, I still don’t believe it’s right for any parent to force their child’s hand.