My own experiences of being parented as a child weren’t positive, but as a parent myself, I feel I have worked hard to be better.
Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs we will ever do. There are many challenges associated with being a parent. We play a big role in our children’s lives, even before they go to school and in the early years we are their teachers, so it’s important we get the parenting thing right.
As parents, we have the ability to influence our children in positive ways. I have talked about my own childhood, and although I am more positive in my approach to my own children, it would be easier for us to parent the way our parents parented us and their parents before them.
It’s easier to settle into repeated patterns set by our parents, than it is to change them. But parenting children differently takes time, effort and understanding, time to work things through, effort to continue, and understanding where we want and need things to change.
Children must also learn how to behave in an appropriate manner and communicate well, so that they can grow into responsible and well-balanced adults. A positive approach from an early age helps them overcome any obstacles, challenges and barriers they may encounter.
Although parenting starts with us, it’s a constant battle to compete with outside influences such as school, extended families and society. As soon as children start school, parents often begin to see a difference in their child’s behaviour due to everyone else’s input. Against outside influences, it’s the parents who will have an uphill struggle.
Teachers play a pivotal role in children’s lives too, so it’s important they’re on the same page as the parent: but ultimately a child’s behaviour will lie with the parents.
When something goes awry, and others are to blame, it’s the parents who become responsible.