Although I deal with anxiety, and I choose not to be defined by it, because I deal with autism it can be difficult to control. Anxiety is something I manage.
Maybe you were an anxious child who is now an anxious adult, or maybe you’ve been through a bad experience and you developed anxiety later in life. But however, you deal with anxiety, it is possible that your mind is now in continual overdrive.
Everything we think and feel is based on our perceptions and attitudes which are centred around anxiety. Anxiety is based on worries that may not necessarily happen. When it comes to worry, ask yourself what would be the worst thing that could happen, and if it does happen, what will you do?
We will all deal with anxiety differently, but the biggest issue around anxiety is our inflexible, rigid and concrete mindset. With autism it is near to impossible to correct. To help with my anxiety, I look for exceptions, where scenarios may be all-black or all-white. It is important to understand each situation in its wider context, without going into overdrive.
We mustn’t assume, we must think outside the box. For example, we assume our best friend isn’t turning up because of something we’ve said, when in fact she’s got a problem with work and she’s having to work overtime, or it could be something has cropped up with a family member, and she didn’t manage to call.
We tend to live with assume, but need to think there will always be a logical reason. Nothing should be a worry until we know and we have something to worry about, but that doesn’t always stop the worry.
That can help us temporarily overcome how we feel and cope with anxiety, but the key is also in how we learn to handle it. Anxiety isn’t something you easily overcome, if at all.