Overcoming barriers

Initially we create and put up barriers to protect ourselves, but that can only work for a finite time, sooner or later we have to take control.

I’ve had to overcome barriers on my disability, barriers over judgments and how I presented over the years and how I still continue to present. I’ve had to overcome barriers on failing in school. The more I failed the more I carried the guilt, because those responsible failed to acknowledge their responsibilities.

I’ve also had to overcome barriers on my childhood and how I’ve been parented. The neglect and emotional distress on a disability I didn’t know I had, has been my biggest struggle. If it wasn’t for the use of reflection, I would have succumbed to illness by now. I’ve also had anxiety and bad thoughts to deal with.

But it’s our subconscious thoughts and feelings that hold us back without us being aware and those need addressing. Without us understanding our thoughts or how we can release those thoughts, the emotional blocks we hide behind will always stop us from getting on with life.

Although we all have different things we deal with, the fact is we will all have barriers to overcome. But through our ability to reflect and look back on our lives, we can attain a greater understanding and awareness of our emotions and beliefs, but we must first be prepared to peel back the layers on our experiences.

It is also important that through the process we work on improving our mental and emotional wellbeing. The idea is that we give ourselves the requisite tools and awareness to live a happier life that will help us incorporate future success. The biggest barrier we usually have to overcome is what other people think of us.

But we don’t have to prove or convince others to agree with us or even like us. What’s important is what we think. Instead of taking things personally, use what’s said to improve your thought process. Care for those who care about you and care less about those who say they care, but their actions and tone tell you otherwise.

And instead of holding on to criticism, choose to look past the criticism, so that what registers is constructive feedback.

19 Oct, 2018

4 thoughts on “Overcoming barriers

  1. There are so many barriers that I’ve built in my life to protect myself, that I don’t really know which one to work on first right now.

    I imagine it has to be the one that prevents me from overcoming my fears of upsetting my partner, and living my own life.

    I was well trained in the art of people pleasing and being brainwashed to think things were normal, when it turned out it was anything but normal.

    Living my own life seemed to be one of the most evil things I could do, but from what I know, many people do it and don’t feel guilty about it at all.

    So many of these barriers have kept me a prisoner in my own nightmare. I want to be able to enjoy living for a change, in what time I have left to enjoy.

    1. Thanks Randy. People don’t feel guilty about living their lives because it’s what you’re supposed to do. And you can too Randy, but you’ve got to do what you must do.

      I think when we make a decision on this level you must take away how you think your partner will feel and perhaps that’s a barrier you must overcome.

      But your journey is for you. Better that than living a life you don’t want to live, then finding out you’ve left it all a little bit too late.

      I’ve seen that happen a few times.

  2. We all have our barriers to overcome, some more difficult than others; but we can start to change how we think and slowly chip away at the barriers others make for us, and we make for ourselves.

    1. Thanks. Yes, it’s much harder to chip away at barriers others make for us, than it is to break down our own barriers, particularly if those people are still in our lives.

      If we set up our own barriers, we surely must be able to find ways to break those barriers down. But we can never live our lives successfully without breaking them down.

      Although both are affected, we must continue to break down barriers around disability and mental health, but particularly around mental health.

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