Initially we create and put up barriers to protect ourselves, but that can only work for a finite time, sooner or later we have to take control.
I’ve had to overcome barriers on my disability, barriers over judgments and how I presented over the years and how I still continue to present. I’ve had to overcome barriers on failing in school. The more I failed the more I carried the guilt, because those responsible failed to acknowledge their responsibilities.
I’ve also had to overcome barriers on my childhood and how I’ve been parented. The neglect and emotional distress on a disability I didn’t know I had, has been my biggest struggle. If it wasn’t for the use of reflection, I would have succumbed to illness by now. I’ve also had anxiety and bad thoughts to deal with.
But it’s our subconscious thoughts and feelings that hold us back without us being aware and those need addressing. Without us understanding our thoughts or how we can release those thoughts, the emotional blocks we hide behind will always stop us from getting on with life.
Although we all have different things we deal with, the fact is we will all have barriers to overcome. But through our ability to reflect and look back on our lives, we can attain a greater understanding and awareness of our emotions and beliefs, but we must first be prepared to peel back the layers on our experiences.
It is also important that through the process we work on improving our mental and emotional wellbeing. The idea is that we give ourselves the requisite tools and awareness to live a happier life that will help us incorporate future success. The biggest barrier we usually have to overcome is what other people think of us.
But we don’t have to prove or convince others to agree with us or even like us. What’s important is what we think. Instead of taking things personally, use what’s said to improve your thought process. Care for those who care about you and care less about those who say they care, but their actions and tone tell you otherwise.
And instead of holding on to criticism, choose to look past the criticism, so that what registers is constructive feedback.