Owning our behaviour

I believe that when we fail to own even a piece of our life, we begin to hurt others, then we find ten reasons to justify our reasoning.

Although my behaviour was a result of neglect, as a child I never understood that my behaviour was creating a void. In our lifetime we create our own platform, we cut out our own characters and as well as creating our fortunes, we also create our own misery too. When we begin to own our life, we begin to take charge.

In my formative years, underneath the exterior façade, was a child desperately looking for emotional support. Unfortunately, when we’re not happy with ourselves, we relinquish responsibility and then spend a lifetime blaming others for our misery.

In my own case I become self-taught and it’s that which allows me to dictate and make my own rules. Together with my spiritual beliefs, they have given me the biggest platform from which to work.

The bottom line is that it really doesn’t matter what we deal with or where we come from, or what demons are hidden in the closet, we’re all responsible for our own behaviour and what we put out there. We call the shots.

We must decide to make our life work for us. A little piece, if not all of it.

9 Nov, 2012

4 thoughts on “Owning our behaviour

  1. I think it’s natural human nature to blame others when we ourselves are at fault. Then there are the true times when it really is others people’s fault.

    I am guilty myself of doing this with my mom. I should have taken charge of the situation with my mom and daughter a long time ago. My mom spoiled my daughter by giving her anything she wanted, (well almost anything).

    She still does it and I’ve discussed it with mom so many times but she still does it. It has hurt my daughter by not allowing her to be responsible for herself.

    Now she is partially disabled in the way that she can’t do anything for herself because she doesn’t have the self-confidence to succeed.

    1. I know from my own experience Lisa if your mom wasn’t ready to let you take charge no matter how hard you will have tried when your daughter was little, wouldn’t have made a difference.

      When someone’s intention is to control someone else, or if not control, so what that other person doesn’t want them to do, it’s hard to insist or convince them to behave in a way you feel is appropriate.

      Don’t be too hard on yourself. You will have done what you thought would help.

      If someone’s not budging there’s not a lot you can do about it. They have to on their part be willing to let go and be responsible for their own set of behaviors as we should be for ourselves.

      1. This is something a lot of people don’t do.

        It is hard sometimes to face, people sometimes do not want to grow up. Then again, it sucks to be an adult LOL! I think if we all had to do it over again, we would have made some better choices.

        I don’t know where I learned to be responsible for my behavior. Guess my mom is to be thanked for that.

        1. I agree with you Maria. Maturity has a lot to do with us taking responsibility for our behaviour, but as you say, a lot of us probably don’t do it.

          I think you’re also right about where it starts. It’s something that tends to start in childhood, if it’s going to start at all, but in any event really needs to happen! Thank you for posting.

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