Although we sometimes disagree with the way our parents parent us, it’s not something we can change for ourselves, but something we can change for our children.
Being a parent myself, it’s easy to see why my father chose not to encourage or aspire me to do anything with my life. It is also easy to see why he had no real concerns about my welfare, because the life I was living was the life he wanted me to live.
That changes of course for the parent whose children are encouraged to make decisions about leaving home to relocate. The feeling becomes different again, when children go off to university and they’re only there for a finite time.
For those of us whose children do decide to move out permanently or relocate to another city that’s when it becomes a whole new ball game.