It has always been a strong belief of mine that people without knowing they’re subconsciously doing it, show us how not to do things, how to change things and to do things better.
In a way that’s a good thing, but in another way it’s not that great, particularly if we’re making changes for the better and others don’t like it and therefore choose not to fall into line. Consequently, our lives may become slightly more challenging, not to mention stressful.
Here’s what you can do:
- Spend more time with like-minded people, who don’t challenge you to think and feel a certain way, or their way;
- Surround yourself with people who elevate you and who won’t drag you down to their level;
- Have people in your life with the same beliefs. It’s hard to navigate our lives with people who simply don’t think the same;
- Focus on yourself;
- If someone is behaving in a way that you feel is inappropriate, don’t change to conform or fit in with them;
- In those cases, always use tact, but say what you need to say;
- Find a balance or compromise if nothing else is working.
In theory, people don’t always have a problem with change; but in practice they find it more difficult. From personal experience, some don’t always like others to change, because they feel threatened by change. As a general thought, people become familiar with the old and hate having to deal with the new.
For some, the old mind-set patterns may be a little harder to change, but may still be willing to change; others may simply not agree.