Perceptions on our past

9 Mar 2014

We tend to wait until we’ve got something to fall back on before we walk away from our past, but because we’ve not managed to change anything, we continue to hold on to the past and that stops us from moving on.

Unfortunately it’s not always feasible to change the past by correcting something in our present. Whatever we go on to change will never be what we’ve left behind, but it’s better than nothing and a good alternative to doing nothing. Sometimes the act of doing something new that’s similar to what we’ve done in our past is enough to let go of an issue in our past.

In my own case when I learned to look at my life objectively, my mindset began to change. We can’t change our past, what’s done is done; but we can change and move on from the past by understanding our life choices and by changing our perceptions on the various issues we have that are stopping us from moving on.

I haven’t corrected everything I’ve done in my past and that’s okay, but I’m not even sure we really need to. As long as we’re happy to understand our past and are happy to relinquish responsibility of the things we clearly weren’t responsible for, we should be able to move on. Own and understand what’s yours and let go of the rest.

What I do know is that if I hadn’t changed my perceptions, I’d still be living in the past and wouldn’t be writing blogs or running The CP Diary now.

4 Responses to “Perceptions on our past”

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  1. Lisa Cyr 09. Mar, 2014 at 10:01 am #

    I’ve learned with the help of my mom, to let go of the past.

    She always said to let go of the past, what is done is done and we can’t change it. But she had to tell me this a lot until I finally got it.

    • Ilana 09. Mar, 2014 at 11:10 am #

      Thanks Lisa. Your mother was so right, but I have found over the years it’s something we have to continually work at, a work in progress if you like.

      It’s often not the letting go that we have a problem with, but it’s usually the trauma and our perceptions of a particular issue that we struggle with letting go of, particularly if we’re feeling guilty about it.

      Consciously we may let go, but unconsciously we don’t always. That’s the part most of us will find difficult. Replacing a bad experience with a new experience definitely helps.

  2. Tim 09. Mar, 2014 at 10:47 pm #

    While it is important to let go of the past in many circumstances, it is equally important to use certain chapters in our past to help guide us towards the future.

    I can’t imagine moving forward without the wisdom of my past.

    • Ilana 10. Mar, 2014 at 7:19 am #

      Great point Tim and you’re absolutely right in what you say. There is much to be sought from the experiences of our past.

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