It’s an all too common scenario when the younger generation isn’t frightened to give up the reality that doesn’t quite fit their expectations.

After all, leaving a course or leaving a job seems like the logical thing to do when you’re not happy. This happened to me. However, a psychologist who studied achievement, attributes success of sticking things out to a trait called ‘Grit.’ Grit is defined as determination and persistence for long-term goals; sticking with those goals on a daily basis, working hard to make it a reality.

Life is being able to persevere in situations that are less than ideal, on the path to success. However, when it comes to careers, most people believe that patience may well be the best policy as there is so much more to be gained by sticking at something, rather than throwing in the towel.

Although our job may not be what we want, it is where we will make some of our most valuable relationships. Working is about the experiences we notch up, the skills and lessons we learn, which we wouldn’t have if we just quit. I believe our emotional development is just as important and that could never happen, if we were to quit. We need to focus on staying and learning our trade.

This can of course apply to other things as well. In my first ever job, I was more than ready to quit. My boss was emotionally abusive and I wanted to walk out. I went through hell for 18 months. But years on I’m glad I didn’t. That said there was no question in my father’s mind that I would quit. I was expected to stick with the job until I could find another one.

6 Nov, 2013

6 thoughts on “Persistence

  1. I’ve never been one for giving up, but this can also be the wrong thing to do and knowing when to give up is one of life’s lessons.

    I have had experiences of both, having stuck out working at a holiday camp for 4 months when the friends I went with went home after 3 days. I had the best time ever! On the other hand I have stuck at relationships when I should have known better and got out.

    1. I think you’re right, knowing when to give up is one of life’s lessons. The analogies you’ve used are good examples.

      We tend to give up at the first hurdle when things seem difficult. It’s like part of us cannot be bothered to try; it’s too much like hard work, but that doesn’t give us the experience we need so that we can grow emotionally and physically.

  2. Yes, I agree. The young people of today do give up too easily. My daughter is guilty of this. If she doesn’t like her job she quits. She just doesn’t realize that quitting looks bad on the resume and she doesn’t really have a life that allows her to grow. But she is Bipolar and I guess it goes with the territory.

    I have been working as a nurse for 25 years and there were so many times I just wanted to quit but I stuck with it. Now that I’m returning to school to learn a new way of helping people I will still be working as a nurse even though I’m truly ready this time to retire the nurses hat.

    The government has their hands in the medical business so much that I can’t be a nurse anymore and give true care to my patients like I’m supposed to. It’s like care has been thrown out the door for policies.

    I think we need to stick with the trade we have until a time when we will be secure in another field and can make new friendships and relationships. We do need to have that true grit.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I think you’re right but it’s difficult with those who have Bipolar to think like we would think.

      I have to say though, that it’s very common to want to give up at the first hurdle, whether we are Bipolar or not. We’re in a world where it’s easy to disengage and should try, but tend to give up when things become too difficult.

      We act first, then think after.

  3. In the world I grew up, we always saw our parents constantly giving up very easily so they weren’t very good role models. It just set a very bad precedent for not fighting for anything we really wanted, which doesn’t lead to a very productive life.

    I’ve given up on so many things in my life. Only now I’m beginning to make sense of what I’m really fighting for and it’s okay to fight for having my own life.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes I am sure it will have helped you tremendously had your parents persisted and stuck at things.

      As children, we emulate what we see from our parents. My life has been far from positive, but it’s something we must change as an adult. That is my belief.

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