Growing up I learned to play things safe, primarily because I wasn’t encouraged to think for myself, or outside the box.
I also learned too late that we don’t have to experience things in a way that others dictate. We must be proactive and assertive for that to potentially happen, but even then it may not work because that depends on our circumstances and the person we’re struggling with.
That not everyone will have our best interests at heart because they have their own. I learned that gaining another person’s approval didn’t give my life purpose either. Sadly, too many times our lives are spent moving boundaries back and forth to somewhere comfortable, trying to find a position that works for us.
But when it comes to risk, it matters that we take the risks that matter to us and the ones that we think will pay off. ‘For example, we may gamble on the Stock Market, knowing we may lose money, but it’s a risk we take anyway.’
The risks we take are defined by how we see success and how we think we might fail. Others may simply take risks and then worry later. Not everyone will calculate the risks first. That says a lot about them.
Although I played it safe, I also tread with caution. I was comfortable that way. It’s important we learn to be safe, but safe can also mean risky if we don’t listen to ourselves and instead follow other people’s methods or advice. Playing it safe means taking on things that we’re comfortable with.
Sadly, risks will always be there, but it’s how we manage and quantify those risks that becomes the difference between success and failure. It’s about what works for us, quantifying those risks, having done our research first before we take the plunge.