I was grocery shopping the other day when I came across a mum and her three children. One child was very young, so was being pushed around in his pushchair and her other two children were walking behind her, messing around.
The elder child had his arm around his younger brother’s neck and when he complained to his mum that his brother had tried to strangle him, their mother told them both to leave each other alone. Although she never acknowledged her younger son’s comment, her comment for either child wasn’t particularly helpful.
When I was growing up in the 60’s and 70’s, it was more commonplace for a parent to say, ‘you’re as bad as each other’ and ignore their child’s comments. I believe it’s so important to deal with children individually, so they go on to have a voice in their adult years.
This lady’s comments brought back such powerful memories of how things were done for me and I thought the world had moved on from that kind of parenting. I have to say I felt so uncomfortable, not only for me having to go down memory lane, but for the child too.