I’ve been asking myself the same question for most of my adult life. Why wouldn’t a parent want to protect their child? We should want to protect our children, so their lives are made easier. It’s our job.
Without getting the balance right between protection and over-protection our lives are often shaped for the wrong reasons, which we may go on to find out, turn out for the right reasons in the longer term: but we can’t always know that at the time.
In other ways I was protected. I was aware of how my world was being shaped: from an early age I knew I needed to change the way I perceived my life. Because I was born with cerebral palsy and my mental and emotional issues weren’t being addressed, I had no choice but to change my perceptions on the way I accepted what was going on in my life.
The way I see it, we can either sit back and accept things as they are, or we can decide to do something about the cards we’ve been dealt and change our lives, so that we feel better about ourselves and our lives.
In an ideal world, all parents would protect their children, but we’re not in an ideal world and it’s not what all parents do. It took me many years to work that out. How parents interact with their children depends on how they cope with their own lives. I assumed in my naivety, it was a given.
From my own experience, when we don’t have someone to look out for us, we either change things for ourselves, or we accept our fate as it is.