I’ve been asking myself the same question for most of my adult life. Why wouldn’t a parent want to protect their child, particularly if they were dealing with physical problems? We should want to protect our children, so their lives are made easier with whatever they’re dealing with.
Without getting the balance right between protection and over-protection our lives are often shaped for the wrong reasons, which we may go on to find out, turn out for the right reasons in the longer term; but we can’t always know that at the time.
In other ways I was protected; but when it came to my disability I was exposed, but I know my formative years helped make me stronger. As a deep thinker I was aware of how my world was being shaped and from an early age I knew I needed to change the way I perceived my life if I was going to make it through my problems.
Because I was born with Cerebral Palsy and those issues weren’t being addressed, I literally had no choice but to change my perceptions on the way I accepted what was going on in my life. The way I see it, is that we can sit back and accept things as they are or we can decide to do something about the cards we’ve been dealt and change our lives, so that we feel better about what we deal with.
In an ideal world, all parents would protect their children, but we’re not in an ideal world and it’s not what all parents do. It took me many years to work that out. How parents interact with their children depends on how they cope with their own lives. I assumed in my naivety, it was a given.
From my own experience, when we don’t have someone to look out for us, we either change things for ourselves, or we accept our fate as it is.