Sometimes we have to put ourselves out for others, even if it means coming out of our comfort zone to do it. We’re more likely to agree to put ourselves out if what we’re going to do means something to the other person.
When I look back and reflect at what my Paris trip meant to my family, I felt sad that my parents didn’t emotionally support me or my siblings. Anyone who has been in this position before may feel let down and disappointed that it never happened for them.
Daniel was already in Paris, so we made the journey to Paris to spend time with him. That was important to him and to us. The event itself is never important, it’s the fact that we go out of our way to lend emotional support and be there for the ones we love.
When we do something for someone that leaves its mark in a positive way everyone gets to feel good. In my case, I am pleased the buck’s stopped with me and that my family got to have the experiences that I should have had growing up.
Unfortunately though, as is often the case, some of our new positive experiences bring back some of the old feelings that we thought we’d left behind. In a way reflection helps me understand this. There is no point holding on to things we cannot change.