The last two days my thoughts have been on the problems with my hair salon. Sometimes life goes like that.
Today I resolved the problem I had and made the decision that it was time to move on and I’m okay with my decision. Although I normally pride myself on working through problems and nine times out of ten I work through them successfully, this outcome I know could never change.
The problems weren’t about me, but they often aren’t. When others instigate as an issue is usually a reflection of how they’re feeling about themselves and that’s reflected in their behaviour towards me. I just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. It isn’t right when we’re not happy that we bring others down.
I know that starting over again is something I will have to do, but I also know that to stay wouldn’t have changed the problems and challenges.
So how do we deal with people who are difficult?
When someone initiates a negative message, they’re implying we should respond. I tend to speak out, because I feel worse if I don’t. And just because we respond, doesn’t mean the conversation has to spiral out of hand. I didn’t come out thinking I was in a bad place, I felt as though they understood and that we had reached an understanding.
I had problems with my hair and I wanted them to know what those problems were. They needed to know. Not to say what we feel is always worse in the long term. It’s easy to look back and live with the ‘what if’s.’ I didn’t want to do that.
In this particular case, I left the salon knowing I’d done the right thing. Hopefully they will have understood.