Having taken time to reflect on what I see as my failings, particularly in school, I realise now those failings weren’t my responsibility. There was no mental or emotional support in place around my disability, or my difficulties, but I also know I need to take control back and own those failings, since they’re still mine.
If you have feelings of failure, below are some questions that can help you assess where you are:
- Do you continually blame your parents for your life?
- Are you happy to take control, or do your parents control you?
- Do you find yourself doing the same things as your parents have done without question?
- Are you continuing to repeat the same mistakes as your parents?
- Are you continually living with the same bad habits, or patterns that you need to change?
- Are you in a rut and don’t know how to change things?
Without question, we repeat the patterns and habits our parents set out for us. Recognising our behaviour pattern is the key to long-term change. We must also be prepared to change the way we think and the way we react to things.