Reflections at Christmas

I usually take time around Christmas to reflect on my year. It’s been a busy year. Having started work on my manuscript in June 2017, in February this year with the help of my editing agent, I set about putting my memoir together.

But this year hasn’t just been about putting my memoir together, I continue to work hard on my blog, working through and bringing about more understanding on all of my experiences. Although I didn’t know, I’ve had to learn about Asperger’s and autism.

On another note, the festive season is supposed to be the season of giving and forgiving. My own circumstances and how I got to this place are unique. Perhaps where ‘Christmas is the season of goodwill to all men’ it should depend on other people’s behaviour.

Others can choose to behave badly, but at Christmas we’re supposed to be forgiving and giving. I’m not sure how that works comfortably for those of us who are caring and compassionate and yet still have to deal with other people’s bad behaviour. Mud sticks when it’s continually thrown.

Where there are those who deserve our friendship and loyalty, it is important we give. It is also important for us to separate our thoughts between those who are there for us and those who continually give us a hard time. Not everyone deserves to have our loyalty.

But there are those who do that face hardships and continue to face hardships. Let’s give a thought to those individuals serving in the armed forces, who protect us, and to those who are less fortunate than ourselves, who aren’t able to spend Christmas with their families. People’s circumstances can change in the blink of an eye.

What we take for granted, others are wishing it was something they had. Us rejoicing and having good cheer should be with each other throughout the year, not only at Christmas.

Too often Christmas reminds us of the things we don’t have, such as a loving family who care, amongst other things.


24 Dec, 2018

4 thoughts on “Reflections at Christmas

  1. Thank you for this years Xmas reflections and for your continued hard work and selfless help and commitment to others and over the last 12 months.

    You have made and continue to make a difference.

    1. Thank you. I absolutely love what I do and that through helping myself, I can help others also.

      From years of living in a very dark tunnel, I feel blessed that I have finally found my writing, something I love to do, something that I am good at. To also have support through responses to my website is another blessing.

  2. Yes, Christmas can be a very hard time of year for a lot of people, especially when they don’t have a ‘hallmark family’ that gets together during this time and who enjoy spending the holiday together.

    Pretty much every other commercial is a reminder of what we don’t have, which only serves to rub salt into the wound. Mine is the fact that I haven’t heard from my daughter since May and probably won’t, seeing as she seems to think that I want to control her life just like her mother, which is not the case and further from the truth.

    It would be fantastic if I would hear from her, but I’m not going to hold my breath, even though it’s painful and that doesn’t go away very easily.

    The most I want after this year is just to be able to have some peace and quiet in my life, and for those I love and care about to have a very Merry Christmas even if I’m not going to be a part of it.

    1. That’s the right way to do it Randy. It’s all you can do for now until something changes in the future.

      As you say this time of year is always the hardest. The optimistic positive side of me believes that things should come good and if they don’t it was never meant to be.

      But we all have freewill to change how and what we think. I work on the black and white theory and that works, regardless of the parent.

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