When our world seems to collapse around us we will always lose our perspective. We will lose sight of everything that was positive, as we begin to hone in on everything that is negative.
Trauma tends to go like that. I began to live in denial for a while. That was my coping mechanism for the first few weeks. I didn’t think about what had happened.
I knew that what had happened still lurked in the background and that I’d still have the problem to deal with, but I needed time to adjust. I had lost sight of any perspective.
How do we get a positive perspective back?
- Acknowledge that what has happened, happened and give yourself time. You’ll never move past the setbacks if you don’t manage some form of acknowledgment;
- Put your setbacks into context. As clichéd as that sounds, it needs to happen if you are to have a chance of finding a more positive take on things;
- There is always something positive that comes out of something negative. It’s not always clear at the time, but when we look back it’s obvious;
- Look for a reason, it’s always there. If the situation was out of your control and there was nothing you could do, let go and move on with your life.
When we begin to understand what, we’re dealing with, we can usually find a way to move forward. Forward enough to regain a more positive perspective on our issues, our lives and everything that we deal with.