I have experienced my world collapsing and how easy in that moment it is to lose perspective. Dealing with any kind of trauma can make us feel like that. It may be something we blank out for a while, that’s a coping mechanism. It’s familiar, it’s what we can cope with.
I have outlined below first steps of dealing with trauma:
- Acknowledge that what happened, happened, and give yourself time. You’ll never move past the setbacks if you don’t manage some form of acknowledgment;
- Put your setbacks into context. As clichéd as that sounds, it needs to happen if you are to have a chance of finding a more positive take on things;
- There is always something positive that comes out of something negative. It’s not always clear at the time, but when we look back it can be obvious;
- Sometimes you’re just in the wrong place at the wrong time. If the situation was out of your control and there was nothing you could do, let it go.
When we become mindful and allow ourselves to be drawn into understanding our trauma, we will begin to quantify the enormity of the situation we’re faced with, deal with it and will then take some form of control.
It is through understanding that we will find a way to move forward again, in a way that allows us to regain a more positive perspective on our trauma experience.