Regaining our perspective

Living with a disability I didn’t know I had, together with my inhibited upbringing and knowing I struggled mentally, emotionally and physically, always made me feel like I was treading water, going nowhere fast.

It was easy for me to lose my perspective on what I was continually having to deal with. I was agitated and angry most of the time.

Dealing with any kind of trauma can make us feel like that. It may be something we blank out for a while, a kind of coping mechanism.

Below are some steps to help deal with trauma:

  • Acknowledge what happened to you happened, and give yourself time. You’ll never move past the setbacks if you don’t manage some form of acknowledgment;
  • Put your setbacks into context. Although a setback can sometimes reverse progress that you’ve made, something you’ve tried to have a go at but not yet managed to complete; try not to see that as something negative. We learn from our setbacks, that was then, this is now. It can either be an ever-present part of your life, or something that was fixed, but something you can now draw inspiration from. We can always choose to think about our setbacks differently.
  • There is always something positive that comes out of something negative. It’s not always clear at the time, but when we look back it can become obvious;
  • Sometimes you’re just in the wrong place at the wrong time. If the situation was out of your control and there was nothing you could do, let it go;
  • Get out of the house. Going out is a good tool for breaking the habit of exclusion and being in a rut;
  • Exercise is known to release a ‘feel good’ hormone, go for walks to clear your head;
  • Think about one small change that will help you clamber out of your emotional rut;
  • Being proactive helps change your mind-set even if it is only for a short while.

Being mindful allows us to be drawn into understanding our trauma. Once we understand we can begin to quantify the enormity of our situation and deal with it. Once we’re able to deal with it, we can then take back some form of control.

I believe it is only through our understanding that we will find a way to regain our perspective: that allows us to move forward through our trauma experiences.


15 Mar, 2012

4 thoughts on “Regaining our perspective

  1. Great post. It’s is easy to lose perspective when things seem to be hard.

    The four suggestions you make are great. As ever it’s realising the need to take a step back and assess your situation from a little distance that is the most difficult.

    1. Thank you. It’s easy to lose sight of our need to take a step back. I think if we managed to do that, we’d sort our problems out a lot quicker than we sometimes do.

  2. I lost perspective when my father died and I crashed hard. Everything fell apart, even my health.

    I became very anemic and just lost it one day, but I got it back together with the help of my husband.

    I agree with you. It’s easy to do when we don’t know how to control our feelings and realize what is happening.

    1. I’m sorry to hear that Lisa, but I am so pleased you managed to work through things.

      Sometimes it takes for us to hit rock bottom, before we begin to realise we have to do something about how we feel; to perhaps regain our perspective on what’s going on around us.

      It’s hard and from my own experience, I find a step back to reassess always helps. We just have to remember to take it.

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