Regaining our perspective

Living with a disability I didn’t know I had, knowing I struggled mentally and emotionally, always made me feel like I was treading water.

It was easy for me to lose perspective on what I was dealing with at the time. I was angry most of the time. Dealing with any kind of trauma may make us feel like that. It may also be something we blank out for a while, a coping mechanism.

It is important to acknowledge what happened, happened, and to give yourself time. It is difficult to move past the setbacks when we may struggle or don’t manage acknowledgment of our experiences.

It is important to put setbacks into context. Although a setback can sometimes reverse progress, we learn from our setbacks. It can either be an ever-present part of our life, or something that was fixed, but something we may draw inspiration from.

We can always choose to think about our setbacks differently. There is always something positive that comes out of something negative. It may not always be clear to us, but when we look back it may become obvious.

Sometimes we’re just in the wrong place at the wrong time. If a situation or issue at the time we were trying to deal with it, is out of our control and there was nothing we could do, it’s good to let it go.

Going out is a good tool for breaking the habit of exclusion. Exercise is known to release a ‘feel good’ hormone, going for walks also helps to clear our head. Think about one small change to help you clamber out of your emotional rut. Being proactive helps change the mind-set even if it is only for a short while.

Being mindful helps us understand our trauma. Once we understand we can begin to quantify the enormity of our situation and deal with it.  I believe it is through understanding that we find a way to regain our perspective and that helps us to move forward through our traumatic experiences.


15 Mar, 2012

4 thoughts on “Regaining our perspective

  1. Great post. It’s is easy to lose perspective when things seem to be hard.

    The four suggestions you make are great. As ever it’s realising the need to take a step back and assess your situation from a little distance that is the most difficult.

    1. Thank you. It’s easy to lose sight of our need to take a step back. I think if we managed to do that, we’d sort our problems out a lot quicker than we sometimes do.

  2. I lost perspective when my father died and I crashed hard. Everything fell apart, even my health.

    I became very anemic and just lost it one day, but I got it back together with the help of my husband.

    I agree with you. It’s easy to do when we don’t know how to control our feelings and realize what is happening.

    1. I’m sorry to hear that Lisa, but I am so pleased you managed to work through things.

      Sometimes it takes for us to hit rock bottom, before we begin to realise we have to do something about how we feel; to perhaps regain our perspective on what’s going on around us.

      It’s hard and from my own experience, I find a step back to reassess always helps. We just have to remember to take it.

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