When we look back through the generations, starting with our generation, our parents’ generation and their parents’ generation, we often see patterns forming in those relationships. From what I know, the following can be some of our biggest relationship mistakes.
When one partner is more committed and puts more time and effort into making the relationship work and the other doesn’t; it’s time to make sure you’re both on the same page and talk about how you feel. If you’re not committed to the relationship, dig deep to find out why. There’s usually a reason for it.
We make mistakes when we base our own relationships on other people’s lives and making their mistakes. Our lives are our lives, our decisions should be ours, not that of someone else. We should be working on living our own lives, concentrating on making less mistakes.
The root of any relationship is friendship, because without being friends first, the relationship will soon fizzle out when it’s run its course. Friends don’t usually argue; instead they will always try to reach a compromise. Having to battle out an argument can make any relationship difficult, not to mention impossible. Be friends first.
Don’t assume you know how the other person feels, without really knowing. Get to know the other person, what makes them who they are and when you do, remember to use empathy. All relationships should be based on empathy. Empathy shows we care for the other person.
Don’t intentionally go out to hurt the other person because you’re angry or fed up. Usually the problem is with us, not the other person. It’s easy to let rip. If the shoe were on the other foot and we were on the receiving end, we’d soon refrain from intentionally hurting the other person.
Be honest and open about what you’re dealing with and don’t pretend that all is right with the world, when it clearly isn’t. Your partner needs to know. Not being open in any relationship will impact that relationship and can cause arguments. It’s always better to be straight. If you care enough that’s what’ll you want to do. Say what you feel.
Finally, don’t assume your partner works a certain way, because another family member may behave that way. All of us our own person, we should be entitled to be treated as individuals. That part is so important.