When we look back through the generations, starting with our generation, our parents’ generation and their parents’ generation, we often see patterns forming in those relationships.
The following can be some of our biggest relationship mistakes:
When one partner is more committed and puts more time and effort into making the relationship work and the other doesn’t: it’s time to make sure you’re both on the same page and talk about how you feel. If you’re not committed dig deep. There is usually a reason for it.
We make mistakes when we base our own relationships on other people’s lives. Our lives are ours, our decisions should be ours. We should be working on living our own lives and making less mistakes.
The root of a relationship is friendship, because without first being friends, the relationship will soon fizzle out when it’s run its course. Friends don’t argue, instead they will reach a compromise. Battling out an argument can make any relationship difficult. Be friends first.
Don’t assume you know how the other person feels, without really knowing. Get to know the other person, what makes them who they are. Relationships should be based on empathy. Empathy shows we care.
Don’t intentionally go out to hurt someone because you’re angry or fed up. The problem’s not with the other person. If the shoe were on the other foot, we’d expect the same from them.
Be honest and open about what you’re dealing with and don’t pretend all is right with the world. Not being open in any relationship will impact that relationship and may cause arguments. It’s always better to be straight.
Don’t assume your partner works a certain way, because another family member may behave that way. Every one deserves a fair trail.