When it comes to relationships, I believe we mustn’t feel guilty about decisions we make if it means we’re supporting our emotional wellbeing. There seems to be an element of guilt that continually ties us into our relationships. We find it hard to walk away.
We also think that we will somehow be judged by other people for coming out of those relationships, but it really doesn’t work that way. It’s better to come out, than it is to stay with someone who is abusive or is making your life difficult. It’s better to come from a broken home than to live in one.
As individuals, we are responsible for what we put out there. If we are rude or abusive, or our behaviour begins to hurt others, then that’s something we have to deal with and change. On our part, once we’ve made the decision to leave, there should be no guilt attached to our decision.
We need to be comfortable, particularly, if our decision is based upon that other person’s behaviour. For me, guilt is no reason to stay in a relationship that is harmful.
In any relationship where someone is continually being hurt, it’s not us who will be accountable. It will always be the person who caused the hurt.